Another Unfortrunate Turn of Events

   Only a select few of those who I've seen in the past year have been privy to what I'm about to share here.  It's something I never wanted to go public with; but being as it's reared it's ugly head again (and likely will for a very long time) I no longer hold reservations in sharing this information with my clients because it will bare a direct influence on my business over the next few weeks, months, and quite possibly years (should I remain working that long)...


     While our family have not yet received an official diagnosis, my mother's gastroenterologist is fairly confident that given her symptoms, surgeries, and a new onset of infection that she has developed crohn's disease.

      At first, in the summer of 2015, they had suspected she simply had a case of diverticulitis, and the condition was confirmed to be active upon endoscopy; however a massive intestinal blockage was also seen to be causing issues and infection which bore a visual resemblance to what's typically seen in crohns...  It was uncertain whether the crohns like symptoms where due to the blockage, or if the diverticulitis was caused by the infection which the blockage itself had presented within the intestines; but with my mother having had a heart attack only months before the intestinal issues where becoming severe enough to send her to hospital several times, removal of the blockage via surgery was ill advised and she was left to suffer recurring episodes of severe pain in between ongoing antibiotic treatments which were used to keep the infection somewhat under control.

     Though she had not started being hospitalized until the Spring of 2015, these past 2 years have been a medical nightmare for my mother with her suffering chronic pain and illness, and while there's nothing I can do for her- I do what I can in being there to care for her and my father whenever these flareups set in.  Hoping that in some way what little I can contribute eases her pain, even just a little bit.



     My mother had a heart attack in the spring of 2015. She had been recovering from a recent stay in hospital so naturally I was with her while she was rebuilding her strength.  A very bad case of indigestion set in while we were talking in the living room.  We assumed it was related to her gastrointestinal issues so she went to lay down as I prepared dinner for my father and my son.  A banging on the floor upstairs sent me flying to her room as she told me she had another bit of very bad heartburn strike her.  She asked me to call "telehealth" for some advise.

     Something was wrong- I didn't know what but I knew that calling 911 was the answer, so I did.

     The paramedics came, checked my mom's vitals, and sure as shit she was having an actual heart attack right there in the living room.  My father and I were terrified.

     Neither of us could go along in the ambulance.  My son was out with friends, my daughter was with her father, and my father could barely walk (he's got something wrong with his knees- we don't know what at this point; but he's going for tests of all sorts and as we try to figure it out), so I called a cab to St. Mary's to make sure my mom wasn't alone, and to support her in any way that I could.

     The wait seemed to take forever; but once she was wheeled out of surgery I was able to see her, and the surgeon informed me that my mother had flat lined twice.

     I thank God I was there that day!

     I'm so glad that I called 911 instead calling the telehealth line because the time which could have been wasted on talking over the phone was instead spent on paramedics assessing my mother's condition and transporting her to where she needed to be.

     If I hadn't been there, my mother wouldn't have had a clear mind on hand and the support she needed to make emergency decisions on her behalf, and she very well could have died as a result...

    

     Although her gastrointestinal issues began long before her heart attack, the complications of the blood thinners and my mother's healing from heart surgery made additional surgery for removal of the mass blockage inside her, ill advised.

     In late February/ early March of 2016, after he had been hospitalized for 6th time in less than a year, my mom had to have emergency gastrointestinal surgery and part of her intestines removed because the baseball proportioned blockage was literally tearing through her intestines.  The surgeon was surprised that she hadn't become septic, and said she was lucky she came in before the intestines burst, lest there be further complications as a result of waiting too long.

     I could have kicked that cardiologist in the keister for not allowing my mother to have surgery months before it had reached this point; but I'm just glad that I was there for my mom when things got so bad for her, and kept going with her to all of her hospitalizations and medical appointments so we could stay on top things together.


     Family is such an important thing, we all know this to be true; but as an only child with ailing parents I find myself being a constant caregiver, and sacrificing much of what I wish I could do with my own life, in order to provide a better life for those I love.

     Make no mistake, I do this willfully and with my whole heart.  I'm the type of person who even if she had siblings I'd be the first to drop everything I'm doing to take care of my parents and extended family without fail; but that doesn't mean I don't feel the effect which doing so has placed upon my life...




     As for why I'm writing about all of this now-
     We had expected that my mom wouldn't have any further issues for quite some time following the removal of the intestinal blockage and infected areas; however several months following that surgery her symptoms have returned...

     Remember, "I'm the type of person who even if she had siblings I'd be the first to drop everything I'm doing to take care of my parents and extended family without fail" and I write this in preparation to do just that- in letting you know why I may have to take time off and cancel plans last minute.

     I just want you to know that I'm not inconsistent because unprofessional or incapable; I'm inconsistent because I ALWAYS place family first! 



Thank you to all my excellent clients for your understanding and continued support

~P

Sexual Health Note 1.

I'd like to take a moment to address the matter of unsafe sex practices within the companionship industry and my unwavering stance on such behaviour. 

As an independent I receive requests for BBFS (unprotected vaginal penetration) on a near daily basis, and usually I don't mind it too much because it helps me to weed out those I have no interest in seeing behind closed doors.  It has been my long time practice to ignore those who ask for BBFS, BBGREEK (unprotected anal penetration) and the like, and to save their phone numbers to my phone under DNB (do not book) so I can avoid their communications in future- no harm, no foul and no one even knew about my doing that until my writing it here just now...

If ever someone requests unsafe sex during an encounter with me, the session is stopped and client is asked to leave my location immediately.  The reason for this is not only one of health and safety; but also because it shows a lack of respect towards both me as a woman and also to the client himself, alongside any partner he might have in his life.  Any attraction or respect I may have had for the client in addition to my overall comfort level with him is lost completely following such a careless, not to mention dangerous request.  That phone number too is instantly marked DNB and any future requests shall be continuously ignored.

Clients who request or attempt PUSSY SLIDES or any kind of uncovered genital to genital/anal contact are immediately told that it is unsafe, thus it is not "allowed" and should they be respectful of that and not try again, we may continue our time together safely; however should a client not respect this boundary and continue to request or try to make uncovered contact the appointment shall be stopped immediately and his number marked DNB so that I can avoid dealing with this kind of disrespectful behaviour in future.

Clients who I have seen before (be it once, twice or a dozen plus times) who request uncovered bodily penetration (whether on the phone or in person) shall not be permitted to see me again in future- there are NO EXCEPTIONS to this rule!  I have lost quite a few clients over the years because such requests have been made, and many of those who I will no longer see were wonderful men with whom I shared an amazing time (or several).  The shame of which is that while I may hate to loose them (because we might have enjoyed each other very much) I simply cannot continue seeing them because their foolishness presents a potential health risk to me and my other clientele which I simply cannot ignore- it would be very wrong of me to do so.


I will never in my life understand the attraction some people seem to have towards such high risk behaviour; but I will always take action to guard myself against associating with those who I know are participating in such!



Today I lost another client because he asked me for BBFS while texting to book our next encounter...  I don't like that I lost this particular person because he really was a great guy with a wonderful personality and play skills that were out of this world; but safety must always come first and the reality of it is that if he's willing to do that with me he's willing to do with others and I can't expose myself to the potential dangers this man's sexual history presents...

I love my job, and I hope to be happily working in the job I love for quite some time.  I will not however keep clients who I feel pose a potential risk to my health or the health of those who I continue to see, and that gentlemen is the point of this post.

Pamela Dolly= the cleanest "dirty" girl you'll ever meet ;)

RE: My Recent Absence

Hey Guys,

I was hoping to use this blog for dripping tales of sex filled adventures and for sharing some of my many interests/ponderings in life; however I find that my first official entry is going to be more of a long over due announcement surrounding my recent availability- or lack thereof...

First off, I just want to say I love that so many of you are trying to connect with me (through various means) and even calling over to the condo to see if I'm still working (asking why I've disappeared, if I'm OK, etc...); both your interest and your concern for my well being is very much appreciated <3

Rest assured- I am fine.  I'm in perfect health, and I'm missing you just as much as you're all missing me ;)

 Today I'll be returning to work (from noon- 8pm), and my regular availability thereafter will be limited to Thursdays and Fridays until further notice.


Now as to what's been keeping me away from work these past few weeks- it's not only that I had been supporting my mother in her healing from surgery; but also that I have been the primary provider of my grandmother's care (which is both extensive and intense) following her most recent medical mishap and the complications therein...
 

Very few people are aware that my grandmother had broken her arm in early January, and while her arm has very thankfully healed the extended duration she had spent in hospital/bed has unfortunately effected her muscle mass and her ability to function- on so many levels. Once fully independent, and following her second fall, my grandma is now unable to function without a minimum of 1 person assistance (physically) and with constant supervision in order to ensure her safety (mentally) because at the ripe old age of 90 my darling grandmother (who is also legally blind) is showing a very steady increase within her previously mild state of dementia.


Our entire family was shocked when after we had placed her in a CCAC approved center for respite care (under the direction of CCAC and following their recommendations as to her level of care needed) my grandmother had another fall which sent her to hospital for an additional week at which time it had been established that my grandma was going to be in need of 24/7 support and monitoring for her safety. 



Though it's taken some time our family has managed to arrange for nursing staff to attend grandma's needs on a nearly 24/7 basis wherein I pick up the slack several days a week (Sun, Mon, Tues, Wed) and where I will remain "on call" the rest of the time (24/7) should one of the hired PSWs not show up for a shift...


Of course I do this happily and wholeheartedly; but in the spirit of full disclosure (within my business) I believe it's only fair to let clients know that my availability is going to be greatly limited for a few weeks and there is a very real chance that I may have to cancel/reschedule engagements with little to no notice due to the current situation.


In a perfect world I wouldn't have to be writing this blog, I wouldn't be missing appointments, and my grandma would be in good health; but the reality is that this world is far from perfect, and sometimes all we can do is just make the best of it and do our best to make it a little bit better if we can.


Today I'll be returning to work (from noon- 8pm), and my regular availability will be limited to Thursdays and Fridays until further notice.



As always, I thank you for your patients and understanding.
~ P